“It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually IN THE ARENA. Who face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcomings.”
Lets talk about the demon that each of us face every single day. It doesn’t matter if you slay this demon one day, she will most definitely be back the following day. What demon? Your inner critic.
Now we all have external critics. People who criticize and pick apart everything we do.
We have those critics yes, but today we’re talking about that little voice inside of your head that constantly tells you you’re not good enough. I am convinced that no one will criticize us as bad as we criticize ourselves.
When does your inner critic pipe up the most? I’d like to think that mine is only loud when I’m pursuing big goals, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.
She’s loud when I say something awkward in a staff meeting.
She’s loud when I call someone by the wrong name or I can’t remember their name at all.
She’s loud when I’m trying on a swimsuit in the unflattering dressing room light at Target.
According to clinical Psychologist Lisa Firestone, “your inner critic is that nagging voice that shows up to tell you you’re not good enough, that casts doubt on your goals, and undermines your accomplishments.”
She goes on to say “Every person is divided; part of us is goal directed and self possessed, while another part of us is self critical, self denying, and even self destructive.”
Great, we’re all walking around with a split personality.
Your inner critic says things like: “You’re stupid, you’re fat, you’re going to fail, no one is listening to you.”
We say the meanest things to ourselves, but I always remind myself that I would never say half the things my inner critic says to me to a good friend.
It is time for all of us to be nicer to ourselves.
What do my voices say? I’ll tell you
They say “You’re stupid and no one cares what you’re talking about.”
They say “You know every time you post a video or a blog post or anything to social media people roll their eyes.”
They say “You’re fat, remember that one time you were skinny? What the hell happened?!”
I love to counter my negative inner voice with positive affirmations.
My more positive affirmations are:
- Someone needs the message you are putting out. It could save a life
- Yes, there may be people rolling their eyes but who gives a shit. The unfollow button exists for a reason. If you don’t like what I post USE IT! And exit stage left…
3. You are NOT fat. You are beautiful, smart, talented, sassy, and amazing! Not to mention the size of your waist has absolutely nothing to do with your ability to contribute to the world.
I wonder what do your voices say?
I read this quote in a book the other day: “The voice that says you suck is universal. Everyone hears it, not just you. Ignore it and keep moving forward. Don’t be distracted from your goal.”
So today, I encourage you to challenge your inner critic. Put her in her place and DO NOT give her free reign over your life.
That is all for today lovely. See you right back here next week.
Until next time remember this is your one life, your only life, there are no do overs, so MAKE IT COUNT!