Marketing and Business, Personal Development

Stop Being So Easily Offended

It Must Be SO Exhausting Being Offended by EVERYTHING

A few years ago I read a book called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

The four agreements are basically four rules we should adhere to to improve our lives.

The agreements are: 

  1. Be impeccable with your word.
  2. Don’t take anything personally.
  3. Don’t make assumptions.
  4. Always do your best.

I want to spend some time talking about the second agreement “Don’t Take Anything Personally.” 

Making this agreement with yourself will definitely benefit you in life, but it will benefit you even more as a business owner.

If you can learn to avoid taking anything personally in business you will eventually build the thick skin you need to succeed.

If everything “triggers” or offends you, you will fail.

Realize that people don’t do things because of you. Their reaction to you and what you’re offering at any given time has more to do with what they have going on in their personal life than it does with you. 

So it is in your best interest as a business owner to stop taking things personally.

If a potential customer rejects your offer they are not rejecting you, they just don’t want what you have.

If a client cancels a call don’t take it personally, work to schedule more calls.

I have seen too many people let rejection make them quit. Once you learn to take the emotion out of the rejection you will be able to blaze a trail forward, because they aren’t rejecting you they just don’t want your product.

I should say I realize this is easier said than done, as are most things in business.

But the good news is practice makes perfect.

Hugs,

Bria

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Body Positivity, Personal Life

For the Love…Put on that Swimsuit

My seven year old officially had his last day of school last Thursday.

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I’m seeing a lot of my friends posting pictures of their kids on the last day of school. Most of them are jumping into a pool and celebrating the unofficial start of summer.

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And truthfully while they’re excited, all of us mom’s know they’re going to complain about being bored a week in.

Ahhh summer. I love you. Longer days. Warmer weather. Plenty of sunshine. Beach vacations and trips to the pool.

While I love summer, for a moment I found myself dreading putting on my swimsuit this year.

Since last summer I have gained 30lbs!! And at times, okay a lot of the time, I am frustrated at myself.

Then I remember, a lot happened last year. Two things that threatened to crush my soul. Two clouds I thought I would never come out from under.

One: My Dad passed away unexpectedly on August 15th. Easily one of the worst days of my life.

Two: I went through a divorce. It was actually a very cordial divorce and me and my ex husband co parent very well. But even a cordial divorce still represents the death of something.

So for me this past year two major parts of my life died. And with that came a lethargy and exhaustion that was hard to shake.

Having to function like a normal person after those major deaths was HARD y’all.

Some days I thought the grief would drown me. Some days I thought it would strangle me alive.

I didn’t recognize myself. And while I continued to workout because I do actually enjoy working out I struggled to care enough about eating healthy.

You know what was comforting after a long day at work battling grief and trying to function like a normal human being: Hotwings, French Fries, a glass of wine, and a Scandal marathon on Netflix.

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So while I did pack on the pounds after my Dad died, I remind myself this summer as I cringe at the thought of putting on a swimsuit, that I went through a LOT last year.

And I know, there are those people who say “Don’t reward yourself with food you are not a dog.” (Insert eyeroll) To those people I say F*** OFF and mind ya business.

So today Mama, whether you’ve gained weight or just never lost the baby weight, I encourage you to remember all the hard things you do in a day. I encourage you to have grace for yourself.

I encourage you to put on your swimsuit because we’re all insecure about it. Solidarity sister..

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And I believe that life ebbs and flows in seasons. You will eventually enter a season where you’re motivated to drop some pounds. And if that isn’t this season…that is okay! Put on your damn swimsuit anyway because I’m sure you look FINE AS WINE regardless.

Now, excuse me while I go look for the cutest one piece swimsuit I can find. Send me your recommendations if you have any.

Hugs,

Bria

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Personal Development

The Daily Am I Enough Battle

Am I Good Enough?

I often wonder why I have to fight the same battle every morning.

It’s exhausting and sometimes I don’t make it out unscathed.

I call it the “am I enough battle?”

Every morning I think:

Am I skinny enough?
Am I smart enough?
Am I nice enough?
Am I pretty enough?
Am I capable enough to run a business?

All the enoughs….every DAMN morning.

And it is exhausting.

I keep thinking that with each level of success this daily battle will fade.

But it never does.

Some days I fight this battle well. I slay the “Enough Dragon” with ease.

Other days the Enough Dragon makes me want to get back in bed and put the covers over my head.

I wonder if you battle the enough dragon daily too?

But you know something, whether you’re going for big things or not, you will battle the Enough Dragon and his sister Self Criticism on a regular.

I’d like to think that this is just developing my character.

That if I can beat back the Enough Dragon that threatens to kill my hopes and dreams then I can do anything.

So today I pull out my sword and slay the Enough Dragon, knowing that he will rise again in the morning and I’ll need to be prepared to do battle yet again.

Hugs,

Bria

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Marketing and Business

Dominate Don’t Compete

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“I don’t have to prove anything to anyone. I only have to follow my heart and concentrate on what I want to say to the world. I run my world!” ~Beyonce

 

Whatever industry you are in or company you are with make up in your mind today that you are going to be the BEST!

When you look at the music industry, Beyonce is easily one of the best singers/performers out there.

There are few who can touch her. (Let’s argue..I said what I said)

So for me, I’m like you know what…I want to be the Beyonce of Business and Marketing. I want to be the BEST!

I want to work so hard that no one can touch me!

I know what is required? WORK! Work, consistency, and the refusal to give up.

You are all out here aging like fine wine so trust me when I tell you the more time you spend in business the better you will get!

Beyonce has been in the music industry for over 20 years honing her craft and getting better year after year.

She is proof that if you stay the course, learn all you can, and apply that knowledge you will win.

So today be Beyonce. I know I plan to be.

Hugs,

Bria

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migraines

Is Chronic Illness Keeping You From Your Goals?

Be kind. For everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.

“Be Kind. For everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” ~Socrates

I know I’m driven and ambitious, but I battle “stuff” everyday just like you do. I refuse to let my “stuff” defeat me. Even when it’s kicking the crap out of me on a regular basis.

What am I struggling through every week? I am currently struggling through 1-2 debilitating migraines per week. If you get migraines you just cringed a little when I said that.

If you don’t get migraines let me clue you in on what happens, because people who don’t get migraines are so CUTE when they say well maybe you just need some caffeine. So cute…

First, I get an aura (an aura is a visual disturbance brought on by migraine). It starts out as a tiny speck in my field of vision and then slowly expands outward until I can’t see anything. My field of vision is eventually covered by zig zagging lines.

Next I get really nauseous and cold at the same time. I need to go find a dark place to sit and wait for my vision to return.

Once my vision returns cue pounding headache, nausea, and extreme fatigue. If the Tylenol I took is working by this point I’m still nauseous but I can fight down throwing up. The headache is still there although its about 50% of what it would be. A migraine at 50% instead of 100% intensity still makes me want to crawl into a dark hole and never come out. 

I also for about 2 hours after getting a migraine can’t read words on a page or computer screen and I struggle to put sentences together.

For a day afterward I am in a migraine fog where concentrating is difficult and I am EXHAUSTED.

I don’t talk about my migraines much. I usually just function through them which is an exhausting feat in and of itself. Have you ever been in a meeting losing your vision and feeling like anxiety is about to eat you alive? I have, on multiple occasions and its not fun.

Why don’t I talk about it? Because people who don’t get migraines don’t care. They think you’re pretending, that its weak to go home because you have a “headache.” I will say that my current boss does care, but I get them too much to go home every-time I get one.

If I went home every time I got a migraine I’d miss 1-2 days of work a week, and something tells me missing 1-2 days a week of work does not guarantee job security.

I’ve tried taking prescription drugs, but those knock me out and make me depressed at the same time. NOPE.

I took magnesium for a while and that helped but eventually it stopped working.

I’ve narrowed down the things that 100% absolutely trigger me and I work to stay away from those foods: Chinese, microwave popcorn, and candy.

Sometimes when I think about how long I have struggled with these it makes me discouraged. Then I remember I have two choices. I can lay down in a puddle of self pity and quit, or I can continue to fight and push forward refusing to let this defeat me. Those are my only choices and since Daddy didn’t raise no quitter I will keep fighting.

Do you suffer from migraines? What have you found that helps reduce the frequency or intensity of your migraines?

Hugs,

Bria

 

Personal Development

Love to Read? Here are My Top 10 Nonfiction Book Recommendations

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“You are the same today as you will be in five years except for two things, the people you meet and the books you read.” ~Charlie Jones

If you want to change your life and expand beyond where you currently are you need to read more books. (I said what I said…)

Reading is a habit my Dad instilled in me from a young age. He always used to say “If you want to hide something from people put it in a book, because most people won’t read.”

Thanks Daddy ❤

I would probably spend my life savings on books if I had a life savings haha. For those of you guys who desire to read more, but finances are an issue there is a wonderful free resource called Overdrive. Its an app.

You can checkout audiobooks and ebooks from your local library as long as you have a library card.

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Here is what the app looks like in the App Store

 

Sometimes people comment on how smart I am, like they think I’m just naturally smart. That couldn’t be further from the truth. The truth is I have read a LOT of books over the years. Personal growth books. Psychology books. Business books. Books books books.

This is one of the things I credit the most with my success. Make this a habit NOW.

I encourage you to set a book goal each year. My goal annually is 12 new books a year. And yes they do count if you listen to them on audio.

Here are my Top 10 Nonfiction Book Recommendations: 

  1. The Principle of the Path by Andy Stanley
  2. Crush It by Gary Vaynerchuck
  3. Platform: Get Noticed in a Noisy World by Michael Hyatt
  4. You are a Badass by Jenn Sincero
  5. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
  6. Strength Finders 2.0 by Tom Rath
  7. Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins
  8. The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor
  9. The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
  10. Better than Before by Gretchen Rubin

I have at least fifty I could recommend but we will stop there.

While I do read a lot of business, marketing, and personal growth books, I do enjoy reading fiction in the evenings to help me relax. I will save my top 10 fiction books for another post.

What are you reading right now? Leave a comment and let me know!

Hugs,

Bria