Overcoming Obstacles in Your Poshmark Business

Lets talks about how to handle the challenges we each face as resellers, but first lets start with a story to put things in perspective.

Once a little boy was playing outdoors and found a fascinating caterpillar. He carefully picked it up and took it home to show his mother. He asked his mother if he could keep it, and she said he could if he would take good care of it.

The little boy got a large jar from his mother and put plants to eat, and a stick to climb on, in the jar. Every day he watched the caterpillar and brought it new plants to eat.

One day the caterpillar climbed up the stick and started acting strangely. The boy worriedly called his mother who came and understood that the caterpillar was creating a cocoon. The mother explained to the boy how the caterpillar was going to go through a metamorphosis and become a butterfly.

The little boy was thrilled to hear about the changes his caterpillar would go through. He watched every day, waiting for the butterfly to emerge. One day it happened, a small hole appeared in the cocoon and the butterfly started to struggle to come out.

At first the boy was excited, but soon he became concerned. The butterfly was struggling so hard to get out! It looked like it couldn’t break free! It looked desperate! It looked like it was making no progress!

The boy was so concerned he decided to help. He ran to get scissors and snipped the cocoon to make the hole bigger and the butterfly quickly emerged!

As the butterfly came out the boy was surprised. It had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. He continued to watch the butterfly expecting that, at any moment, the wings would dry out, enlarge and expand to support the swollen body. He knew that in time the body would shrink and the butterfly’s wings would expand.

But neither happened!

The butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings.

It was never able to fly…

As the boy tried to figure out what had gone wrong his mother took him to talk to a scientist from a local college. He learned that the butterfly was SUPPOSED to struggle. In fact, the butterfly’s struggle to push its way through the tiny opening of the cocoon pushes the fluid out of its body and into its wings. Without the struggle, the butterfly would never, ever fly. The boy’s good intentions hurt the butterfly.

~The original story of the butterfly can be found HERE.


Like the butterfly, we need our challenges and obstacles to make us stronger. I often find myself wishing things were easier for me.

Wishing I didn’t have to work ten hour shifts on my feet every weekend that leave me completely wiped out.

Wishing I didn’t suffer from horrible migraines that leave me an anxious hot mess for a few days following the attack.

Wishing that business in general wasn’t such a difficult thing.

The truth is, while these things are hard they make us strong. And in this life, you have to be strong or life will grind you into dust.

I utilize a few strategies to help me manage the overwhelming whirlwind that is business and life. 

One: Incorporate regular physical activity.

Now, when you’re busy grinding away at your work, you may think you don’t have time to exercise. I would encourage you to MAKE TIME.

If you look at majority of the really successful people…one thing they have in common is that they exercise. Ever heard the saying “Manage your energy not your time?”

I love this saying because honestly I could have all the time in the world to get a task done but if I have no energy to complete the task then I will waste the time I have.

Two: Find a supportive community of like minded entrepreneurs.

As you grow your reselling business, it is going to become even more important that you surround yourself with people who encourage you as you face challenges.

Stay away from people who constantly complain that the sky is falling. They are a drain on your mental and emotional resources.

Not sure how to find other positive and encouraging resellers? I would say start with Instagram. Search the hashtag #poshmarkcommunity or #poshmarkreseller and then go through that hashtag and look for people who share encouraging and uplifting messages.

A word of caution though, don’t assume just because someone has a lot of followers that they are a positive influence on you. I have had to unfollow SEVERAL popular resellers because they are president of the “Ain’t it awful” club.

Three: Make sure you are taking at least one day off each week, or at least a half a day off.

Now, lets be real for a second, I can’t take an entire day off. I’m an overachiever who enjoys working.

However, each Wednesday morning I force myself to put work aside and go do some non work related things to help me re-energize myself.

I go to Starbucks with my journal, my planner, and a legal pad.

I drink my coffee, write in my journal, and then rewrite my goals for the month. This helps me refocus and reset my mind for the upcoming week.

Now, believe it or not, I also go thrifting on my day off. Thrifting is the one part of reselling that doesn’t feel like work to me. I enjoy hunting through rows and rows of clothing and feeling like I’m hunting for buried treasure.

So, I do allow thrifting to be a part of my day off but only because it re energizes me.

My friend, we have a long road ahead of us as we build these businesses that could eventually allow us to work for ourselves full time.

We each possess our own unique box of challenges, but I hope some of these strategies will help you.

I’m curious, what strategies do you use to overcome the challenges you face as a reseller?

P.S. Want to stay connected? Follow me on Instagram @CurvyGirlResaleTN and Poshmark @CurvyGirlTN  If you’re new to Poshmark, make sure you sign up using code: CURVYGIRLTN (all one word) and when you do, you’ll get $5 to spend on your first purchase. 




Career, Personal Life

Why I Am Grateful For a Career As a Reseller

There are a lot of varying opinions about a career as a reseller. While some view it as a necessary evil, a stop off on the way to whatever other career they’re pursuing, I view it with sheer gratitude.

Oh sure, I have days where I am irritated by how many different ways I’m asked to measure a shirt, but overall I feel like I have found a home in this profession.

Let’s take a walk down memory lane shall we? I’ll explain why. 

In 2013 I graduated from college with a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology. Growing up, it was my Dad’s dream for me to get good grades, go to college, graduate, and get an office job where I would be able to pay my bills.

I don’t blame my Dad for his assumption that a college degree would prevent me from having to live life the way we did growing up.

I mean my parents raised four kids on $25,000/year. I have NO idea how they did it. Thank God for government assistance programs.

It’s funny how little you actually know about life after college. While I was in college I majored in Psychology and was sure I would find a well paying job once I graduated.

However, what no one really explained to me, until it was too late, is that about the only way to get a job in your field with a Psychology degree is to go to graduate school.

Bless my heart. I mean I could’ve worked in HR somewhere with a Psychology degree, but I kept running into the problem of they wanted you to have at least two years of work experience before they would even consider you for the position.

Ummm hello, I literally just graduated from college five minutes ago. The only work experience I had was waitressing.

I thought I would never find a job, but I got a lucky break and was hired on at the non profit I interned for a few months before graduating.

Post college 2013 in my first job for Madison County CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocates) 

I loved my boss. She was my first experience with working for someone who actually cared about you.

Fast forward to 2018 and I was on my fourth office job in five years. I often wondered if there was something wrong with me. I was a hard worker no doubt, but after about a year in each of those jobs I started to feel like a caged animal.

My migraines would increase in frequency and each Sunday was torture as I thought about having to go into work the next morning.

Honestly, none of the jobs were terrible jobs. They paid well, my bosses were nice (well most of them), and the work wasn’t difficult.

My problem? I realized after lots of journaling and self reflection that I HATE sitting still.

Office work = sitting still. A LOT. There are meetings, more meetings, and did I mention that sometimes we would have meetings about meetings.

I am often surprised, when I look back that I never picked up a pencil and jabbed it through my eye while sitting in yet another boring ass compliance meeting.

“I have to get out of here,” I would often think to myself.

At this time, I was no stranger to entrepreneurship.

Since 2010 I had been apart of many different business. My very first one being a Network Marketing business, in a company called BeautiControl (they are no longer around).

I joined BeautiControl three different times before I was convinced network marketing wasn’t for me.

I think I kept going back because it was the only business opportunity I could see that would allow me to start without a major investment. All I really needed was my hard work and determination.

After the third try I finally gave up on BeautiControl and decided to start my own online business as a Weight Loss Coach.

In 2013 I lost 80lbs using diet and exercise and decided to start a blog called From Fluff 2 Fit. I will never forget how it felt to land my first coaching client. She handed me a check for more money than I had ever seen at one time.

I was able to land several clients before my husband at the time told me I was going to have to get a job because From Fluff 2 Fit wasn’t bringing in enough money to support our family. I was absolutely heartbroken.

I will never forget laying on my bathroom floor and crying my eyes out as I realized I would have to go back and get a corporate job. I wasn’t even that upset about the job. I was more upset that my business had failed.

It felt like I lost a person. Like something died. And something did die that day. My hopes and dreams that I could start and grow a successful online business.

Fast forward to 2018. I was in my fourth position since graduating from college and barely six months in I started to feel the cagey feeling again.

I had just finished Marie Forleo’s B-School. I had the tools to start a business but I knew I didn’t want to start another coaching business.

Over the years I learned two major things about myself: 1) I don’t like to sit still so office work is definitely not for me. 2) I prefer businesses that have actual physical products.

The “Laptop Lifestyle” and the “Digital CEO” is very popular. There are people online making millions of dollars running businesses that are purely digital with courses, ebooks, and online coaching.

I knew I didn’t want to build a business that way. So I started googling and eventually landed on Poshmark. I’d read a few articles about women making good money on a platform that allows them to sell used clothes online.

In July 2018, I was introduced to the world of reselling for the first time and I was hooked. In January 2019 I quit my office job to go back to waitressing and build my resale business “Curvy Girl Resale.”

In that time I have come to feel so grateful for a profession that feels like home for me. Sure, it is HARD freaking work. Sourcing and steaming and listing and constantly feeling like you don’t know what the hell you are doing.

But as I am waitressing while I’m building my business I realized that reselling is not nearly as hard as being a waitress. I will take reselling ANY DAY.

For example, one night at work I had a party of 16 BY MYSELF. First, it was 100 degrees in our restaurant at the time and I could not stop sweating.

Secondly I literally ran my ass off with drink refills, and fry refills, and extra this and extra that to make $55.

Now, as a waitress a $55 tip is AMAZING!! But when I think about how hard I had to work to make that $55 I realize reselling is hard but its not THAT hard.

I mean as a reseller I could sell six items for $20 and end up with a $55 profit after fees and cost of goods are removed.

Honestly its all hard, I guess you just have to pick your hard.

One night at work, I had a lady ask me for coke with light ice. Okay, so I brought her a coke with light ice. She looked at it and looked at me and said “This is light ice?!”

And my customer service person, not the real me, said “Oh I’m sorry mam, is that too much ice? Let me take that back and put less ice in there for you!”

Like I said reselling is easier…

I am grateful for these experiences as a waitress though because it gives me perspective. When I grow tired of reselling I will remember what I endured as a waitress.

The back pain, the long nights, the rude customers, the rude cooks (because cooks and servers generally don’t get along. They think we’re all dumb and that somehow they’re better than us…it’s annoying).

Not to mention my income potential as a reseller is so much higher than it is as a waitress.

So, I am grateful for my career as a reseller, because after years of searching for where I fit, I feel like I have finally found my place as a reseller.



P.S. Want to stay connected? Follow me on Instagram @CurvyGirlResaleTN and Poshmark @CurvyGirlTN

If you’re new to Poshmark, make sure you sign up using code: CURVYGIRLTN (all one word) and when you do, you’ll get $5 to spend on your first purchase.