Marketing and Business, Personal Development

Stop Being So Easily Offended

It Must Be SO Exhausting Being Offended by EVERYTHING

A few years ago I read a book called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.

The four agreements are basically four rules we should adhere to to improve our lives.

The agreements are: 

  1. Be impeccable with your word.
  2. Don’t take anything personally.
  3. Don’t make assumptions.
  4. Always do your best.

I want to spend some time talking about the second agreement “Don’t Take Anything Personally.” 

Making this agreement with yourself will definitely benefit you in life, but it will benefit you even more as a business owner.

If you can learn to avoid taking anything personally in business you will eventually build the thick skin you need to succeed.

If everything “triggers” or offends you, you will fail.

Realize that people don’t do things because of you. Their reaction to you and what you’re offering at any given time has more to do with what they have going on in their personal life than it does with you. 

So it is in your best interest as a business owner to stop taking things personally.

If a potential customer rejects your offer they are not rejecting you, they just don’t want what you have.

If a client cancels a call don’t take it personally, work to schedule more calls.

I have seen too many people let rejection make them quit. Once you learn to take the emotion out of the rejection you will be able to blaze a trail forward, because they aren’t rejecting you they just don’t want your product.

I should say I realize this is easier said than done, as are most things in business.

But the good news is practice makes perfect.

Hugs,

Bria

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Personal Development

The Daily Am I Enough Battle

Am I Good Enough?

I often wonder why I have to fight the same battle every morning.

It’s exhausting and sometimes I don’t make it out unscathed.

I call it the “am I enough battle?”

Every morning I think:

Am I skinny enough?
Am I smart enough?
Am I nice enough?
Am I pretty enough?
Am I capable enough to run a business?

All the enoughs….every DAMN morning.

And it is exhausting.

I keep thinking that with each level of success this daily battle will fade.

But it never does.

Some days I fight this battle well. I slay the “Enough Dragon” with ease.

Other days the Enough Dragon makes me want to get back in bed and put the covers over my head.

I wonder if you battle the enough dragon daily too?

But you know something, whether you’re going for big things or not, you will battle the Enough Dragon and his sister Self Criticism on a regular.

I’d like to think that this is just developing my character.

That if I can beat back the Enough Dragon that threatens to kill my hopes and dreams then I can do anything.

So today I pull out my sword and slay the Enough Dragon, knowing that he will rise again in the morning and I’ll need to be prepared to do battle yet again.

Hugs,

Bria

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Personal Development

Love to Read? Here are My Top 10 Nonfiction Book Recommendations

Book Post

“You are the same today as you will be in five years except for two things, the people you meet and the books you read.” ~Charlie Jones

If you want to change your life and expand beyond where you currently are you need to read more books. (I said what I said…)

Reading is a habit my Dad instilled in me from a young age. He always used to say “If you want to hide something from people put it in a book, because most people won’t read.”

Thanks Daddy ❤

I would probably spend my life savings on books if I had a life savings haha. For those of you guys who desire to read more, but finances are an issue there is a wonderful free resource called Overdrive. Its an app.

You can checkout audiobooks and ebooks from your local library as long as you have a library card.

Overdrive
Here is what the app looks like in the App Store

 

Sometimes people comment on how smart I am, like they think I’m just naturally smart. That couldn’t be further from the truth. The truth is I have read a LOT of books over the years. Personal growth books. Psychology books. Business books. Books books books.

This is one of the things I credit the most with my success. Make this a habit NOW.

I encourage you to set a book goal each year. My goal annually is 12 new books a year. And yes they do count if you listen to them on audio.

Here are my Top 10 Nonfiction Book Recommendations: 

  1. The Principle of the Path by Andy Stanley
  2. Crush It by Gary Vaynerchuck
  3. Platform: Get Noticed in a Noisy World by Michael Hyatt
  4. You are a Badass by Jenn Sincero
  5. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
  6. Strength Finders 2.0 by Tom Rath
  7. Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins
  8. The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor
  9. The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
  10. Better than Before by Gretchen Rubin

I have at least fifty I could recommend but we will stop there.

While I do read a lot of business, marketing, and personal growth books, I do enjoy reading fiction in the evenings to help me relax. I will save my top 10 fiction books for another post.

What are you reading right now? Leave a comment and let me know!

Hugs,

Bria 

Personal Development

Silencing Your Inner Critic

It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out

“It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually IN THE ARENA. Who face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcomings.”

~Theodore Roosevelt

Lets talk about the demon that each of us face every single day. It doesn’t matter if you slay this demon one day, she will most definitely be back the following day. What demon? Your inner critic.

Now we all have external critics. People who criticize and pick apart everything we do.

We have those critics yes, but today we’re talking about that little voice inside of your head that constantly tells you you’re not good enough. I am convinced that no one will criticize us as bad as we criticize ourselves.

When does your inner critic pipe up the most? I’d like to think that mine is only loud when I’m pursuing big goals, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.

She’s loud when I say something awkward in a staff meeting.

She’s loud when I call someone by the wrong name or I can’t remember their name at all.

She’s loud when I’m trying on a swimsuit in the unflattering dressing room light at Target.

Trying on Clothes

According to clinical Psychologist Lisa Firestone, “your inner critic is that nagging voice that shows up to tell you you’re not good enough, that casts doubt on your goals, and undermines your accomplishments.”

She goes on to say “Every person is divided; part of us is goal directed and self possessed, while another part of us is self critical, self denying, and even self destructive.”

Great, we’re all walking around with a split personality.

Your inner critic says things like: “You’re stupid, you’re fat, you’re going to fail, no one is listening to you.”

We say the meanest things to ourselves, but I always remind myself that I would never say half the things my inner critic says to me to a good friend.

It is time for all of us to be nicer to ourselves.

What do my voices say? I’ll tell you

They say “You’re stupid and no one cares what you’re talking about.”

They say “You know every time you post a video or a blog post or anything to social media people roll their eyes.”

They say “You’re fat, remember that one time you were skinny? What the hell happened?!”

I love to counter my negative inner voice with positive affirmations.

My more positive affirmations are:

  1. Someone needs the message you are putting out. It could save a life
  2. Yes, there may be people rolling their eyes but who gives a shit. The unfollow button exists for a reason. If you don’t like what I post USE IT! And exit stage left…

Girl Bye

3. You are NOT fat. You are beautiful, smart, talented, sassy, and amazing! Not to mention the size of your waist has absolutely nothing to do with your ability to contribute to the world.

I wonder what do your voices say?

I read this quote in a book the other day: “The voice that says you suck is universal. Everyone hears it, not just you. Ignore it and keep moving forward. Don’t be distracted from your goal.”

So today, I encourage you to challenge your inner critic. Put her in her place and DO NOT give her free reign over your life.

That is all for today lovely. See you right back here next week.

Until next time remember this is your one life, your only life, there are no do overs, so MAKE IT COUNT!

Hugs,

Bria

Personal Development

Two Things You Need to Do to Start Living Intentionally

Adventure

Today I want to talk to you about drifting through life. How just going with wherever the ocean current of life takes you may not be the best plan for your life.

According to Merrian-Webster, the definition of drifting is “to be carried slowly by a current of air or water.”

If you’ve recently found yourself saying out loud “What the hell am I doing with my life?” You may be a victim of the drift.

In his book “Awaken the Giant Within,” Tony Robbins uses a perfect analogy to describe what drifting through life can feel like. He calls it “The Niagara Syndrome.”

In describing the Niagara Syndrome Tony says “Too many of us don’t make the majority of our decisions consciously…in so doing, we pay a major price. In fact, most people live hat I call “The Niagara Syndrome.” I believe that life is like a river, and that most people jump on the river of life without ever really deciding where they want to end up.

So, in a short period of time, they get caught up in the current: current events, current fears, current challenges.

When they come to forks in the river, they don’t consciously decide where they want to go, or which is the right direction for them. They merely go with the flow. They become a part of the mass of people who are directed by the environment instead of by their own values. As a result, they feel out of control.

They remain in this unconscious state until one day the sound of the raging water awakens them, and they discover they’re five feet from Niagara Falls in a boat with no oars. At this point they say “Oh shoot!” But by then its too late. They’re going to take a fall. 

Sometimes its an emotional fall. Sometimes its a physical fall. Sometimes its a financial fall. It’s likely that whatever challenges you have in your life currently could have been avoided by making some better decisions upstream.” 

Does this strike a chord with you? Are you saying “crap, that’s me. Drifting through life?”

Well here are two things you can do today to stop drifting and start living an intentional life:

  1. First you need to DECIDE. Decide if what I’m saying is even important to you. Decide if you’re willing to put in the work to live a good life or if you’re going to roll your eyes and close out of this website.
  2. Still here? Great. Number two. Set a goal. Any goal. No matter how small. Think about your life and where you are now. What goals do you want to work towards? Do you want to find a new job? Do you want to start a business? Do you want to lose 20lbs? Figure out what goal has been nagging at you and set the intention to start working towards it.

Once you’ve decided on your goal, I strongly encourage you to write it down and post it somewhere you will see it regularly. Getting caught up in the day to day nuances of life can distract you from your goal, which is why it is so important to put it somewhere where you will see it and be reminded of what you’re working towards.

So today, I want you to stop drifting and start creating the life YOU want. There is a reason that books like Viktor Frankl’s “Man’s Search for Meaning” and Rick Warren’s “The Purpose Driven Life” are so popular. Your life demands direction and purpose.

Remember: This is your one life and there are no do overs, so make it count.

Hugs,

Bria

P.S. Leave a comment and let me know what goal you’re working on right now. I would love to send you some positive encouragement.

 

 

Personal Development

Live Your Best Life

 

For what it's worth

Susan rolled over and turned off her alarm. It read 6:00 a.m.

Uggghhhh Monday. I hope today isn’t the day I yell at my boss and tell her how stupid I think she is.

How if I have to sit through another meeting that could’ve been an email I’m going to jab a pencil through my eye.

God I hate this job. Wonder if I could get away with selling drugs to pay rent.

Susan is clearly not living her best life. Sadly, I know a lot of people like Susan. For a long time post college, I was Susan.

Going to a job I hated. Dealing with a micromanaging overbearing boss who probably would’ve accompanied me to the bathroom and told me how to use the bathroom properly if it wasn’t weird and socially unacceptable.

What got me through it? Podcasts, lots of encouragement, and the belief that I did in fact have control over what my future looked like.

Does Susan’s Monday sound familiar to you? Are you Susan?

If you are. It’s time to make a plan and set your life on the course of YOUR choosing.

To help you do that I’m starting the Live Your Best Life podcast! I’ve always been a person who loves motivating and encouraging people. And I believe it’s time to help you break out of prison and live a life that you choose. The podcast will launch in July of this year so make you follow the blog to stay in the know! 🙂

I’m an entrepreneur at heart, so I love anything business related and entrepreneurial. But entrepreneurship is not for everyone. And that is okay! Living your best life could mean you get the promotion you’ve always wanted, or you finally shed the extra weight you’ve been carrying around.

I started Live Your Best Life to help you figure out what IS important to you? Even if you’re not an entrepreneur I believe you have goals and things you want to accomplish before this life is over.

I am driven by the fact that there are no do overs. This is the only life I get so I’ve got to make it count!

I was inspired to work harder on things that are important to me after my Dad passed in August last year. 

Me and Dad 2

My Dad’s passing made me start caring less about things that are not important to me or what other people think about me.

Sure some people are going to look at me and say “Who does she think she is?” Hell that is what the voice inside my head says to me half the time anyway but I ignore it and keep moving forward.

Beware, that anytime you step outside of your comfort zone and you do something different people will have an opinion, but it DOESN’T MATTER! 

You can live your whole life caring about other people’s opinions or you can step out and do something different. And trust me, those people who are judging you now, I can assure you 10 years from now when you are successful and enjoying life you won’t be thinking about them. They however, will probably still be in the same crap job they hate, at the same place in life and spewing negativity.

It’s time to be intentional about your life. It’s time to wake up and get out of the matrix and decide whats important to you. What do you want to pursue? Who do you want to be?

A few tips for you as you start setting goals and crushing them:

Be careful the people you spend time with. I know its cliche to say this but this Jim Rohn quote is so true –>  “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” If you are around people who are constantly negative and griping and making jabs at other people, you need new friends. I hate to say it, wait no I don’t, those people are keeping you down! Get away from them!

Be careful who you share your goals with. Everyone is not supportive. And family members can be the worst sometimes. People will always tell you you can’t accomplish something because they couldn’t. Realize their perspective is filtered through their life experiences.

And even if you do try and fail, I promise you will gain so much life experience from the attempt that I can assure you will come in handy at a later point in life.

So either you win or you learn. That seems like a win win to me.

Along with the podcast that is launching in July, I will also be posting one blog post a week to keep you motivated, encouraged, and informed.

Until then remember this is your one life, your only life. There are no do overs so make it count!

Selfie 5

Bria ❤

P.S. More details on the podcast coming soon. Want to stay in the know? Make sure you hit follow button in the right sidebar to stay up to date!