migraines, Personal Life

How I Reduced the Intensity of My Migraines

Today marks my fifth migraine day this month. I woke up with an aura around 4:45 a.m. and immediately took the meds I take at the onset. Now I am tired and have a mild headache, but I can function thankfully.

For a quick recap if you’re new to my blog and my struggle with migraines. I have suffered from migraine with aura since I was 16 years old. 

In the first years of my migraines I would get one migraine attack a year with aura. What is an aura? An aura starts out as a tiny blind spot in my right eye and eventually moves to cover my entire field of vision in one eye. 

I refer to it as the blindness stage of my migraine because at this point it is very difficult to see as the aura slowly fills my entire vision. My peripheral vision is usually completely gone during an aura.

The aura part of the migraine also usually precedes the headache for me.

When I initially started having migraines, I didn’t have them often enough to really research effective treatment methods.

So, my method of treatment initially was to get past the throw up stage of the migraine and then take Nyquil. I would then pass out in hopes that the pain was gone by the time I woke up.

However, once I had my first child in 2010 the frequency of my migraines increased dramatically. I went from having one migraine a year to two to three a week. It was brutal!

I’m sure it was a combination of the added stress of having a baby and not getting much sleep.

Fast forward to 2019 and I typically have no less than four migraine attacks in a given month. 

In 2017 I started using Evernote to keep a migraine journal. I use this migraine journal to track my attacks, triggers, and treatment.

If you are a migraine sufferer, I would strongly encourage you to keep a journal and track the time of the attack, the duration, and the intensity of the attack. 

Also, write down what you did the night before or anything you think may have triggered you.

My known triggers: stress, sleep disturbances, sugar, cheese dip (so sad I know), and potato chips. I think I may need to add wine and microwave popcorn to that list but I am not emotionally prepared to let those go yet, especially since I can’t have cheese dip.

So, as I stated earlier, this is my fifth migraine with aura this month. From my notes/migraine journal I have noticed that half of the migraines I’ve had in the past month and a half are triggered upon waking, or I’m right in the middle of an aura when I first wake up.

Here is what preventative and onset medication are working for me right now:

Daily: Drink 90 oz of water and take 250 mg of magnesium. Since starting magnesium daily, I have noticed a decrease in the intensity of the migraine once I do get one. However, it did take about eight weeks of consistently taking the magnesium for me to notice a significant difference.

The first time I tried magnesium daily, I was taking 500 mg, which ended up being too much for my stomach and I quit taking it. I noticed a significant increase in the intensity of my migraines once I quit taking magnesium.

When I resumed taking it, I cut my dosage down to 250 mg.

Onset of attack: At the first sign of an aura I immediately take two Excedrin and one CBD capsule. I know CBD is controversial, but as a chronic migraine sufferer I am inclined not to care. If you suffer as well, I would encourage you to have an open mind.

Most CBD does not contain THC, which is what is found in marijuana and is also the part that gets you high.

The CBD not only helps with the pain but it also reduces the significant anxiety I usually get in the days following a migraine attack.

Also, I’m not 100% sure of this, but I used to also throw up when having a migraine and that has since stopped. The nausea is still with me, but it is mild. I’m not sure if this is because of the CBD or because of the magnesium. I suspect it is a combination of both.

The next preventative thing I intend to add is melatonin. I do believe migraine and poor sleep go hand in hand for me. I also came across this article about the “Benefits of Melatonin for Migraine Sufferers” while conducting migraine research.

I plan to start using Melatonin tonight and see how it does for me over the next 30 days.

I’ll keep you guys posted. I am extremely grateful to have gone from 2-3/migraines a week down to one a week.

What treatment has worked for you in your battle against migraines? Let us know in the comments below. 

To your continued healing.



Marketing and Business, Personal Life

731 Day: Porchfest Recap and a New Business Idea

It was a busy week! I should just say that as a parent I feel personally attacked that my kid has a birthday on the same day that school starts…and now I’m BROKE. Welcome to adulthood.

Our community put on an amazing event Tuesday for 731 day called Porchfest. Local musicians played on different porches throughout the community. There were food trucks, good music, and we were all a sweat hot mess by the end of it! But it was amazing. We were one of the host homes and we had such a phenomenal time!

J&Bae TV representing at ALL times lol. 



I was so proud of my friend who coordinated this event. It was a first annual event but the turnout would’ve made you think the event had been going on for years! And y’all she is so cute and pregnant right now. You know you’re a BOSS WOMAN when you pull off an event like this while being 8 months pregnant. Hats off to her!

I hope we get asked to be a host home again next year!

In other news, I’m experimenting with a new business concept right now reselling clothes. I love fashion and at times as an entrepreneur I still find myself trying to figure out where exactly I fit. Each time I get a new idea I think…maybe this is it! (says every entrepreneur lol) 

However, anyone who knows me knows I love fashion and dressing nice. I mean I comment on everyone’s clothes where I work. If I could, I would start and Instagram account just dedicated to people’s outfits at work. The people in my office wear stylish clothing on a regular basis although I’m sure at this point they are tired of my commentary on it!


So I’m experimenting with reselling new and gently used clothing and honestly so far it is going MUCH better than I expected. I’m utilizing different platforms to sell: Poshmark, Instagram, and my mom’s group on FB. I am so excited by the positive response I have received from this.

New Items IG
I post new items in my mom’s group and on Instagram to generate sales. 
Awkward as Flock tee that is for sale in my Poshmark store @curvygirltn
I ship out orders to my customers as they come in. I am having WAAAAYYYY more fun than I thought I would with this! 

So in addition to J&Bae TV and my full time job, I’ve adding in reselling clothing. I don’t feel too overwhelmed yet, but you can bet your boots its coming. But business growth is a good problem to have.

As an entrepreneur, I also do struggle sometimes with thinking my ideas are silly. I get so many ideas. I will try something, and if it doesn’t work I’ll move onto the next thing.

Earlier this year, I started a resume writing business and although it was going well I realized I don’t have the time capacity to scale that business so I let it go and moved on. Try. Fail. Learn from it. Then move on. BOOM. 

I also saw this meme the other day and it instantly made me feel better and think maybe my ideas aren’t so silly.

You have a pretty solid point! 

So what are you working on right now? What side hustle are you trying to get off the ground? I’d love to hear about it. 

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Body Positivity, Personal Life

Weight Loss Struggles

Jesus calories

Y’all…I’m getting real sick and tired of food having calories.

I am holding steady at 230lbs and no matter what I do, I cannot summon the willpower to lose weight. The last time I lost weight it was only because I wanted to look better in photos. THAT’S IT!

The hard thing for me now is that no matter what size I’m at, when I look at myself in the mirror I think I look fantastic <3. I’m not sure where this over confidence came from.

When I lost weight before I legitimately looked at myself in the mirror and said you look sloppy you need to lose some weight (side note: I am not NEARLY that mean to myself now).

I mean I just look at her and I like her!


Maybe it’s because the first time I lost weight, even though I had lost 80lbs I was still miserable and really mean to myself. It was like no amount of weight I lost was enough. Y’all I legitimately DO NOT want to go back to that place.

Don’t get me wrong, I understand the health risks that come with being 5’4″ and 230lbs. I get it. But even still I’m just not motivated.

My days of trying to replace regular pasta with spaghetti squash are behind me. It makes me miserable even thinking about making that substitution. For sure NO!

I am currently taking Plexus for my migraines. Plexus is a weight loss supplement but it “technically” only works in combination with a healthy diet…imagine that. On the plus side I went from 2-3 migraines a week down to like 1 a month. I still don’t quite understand the science behind that but as a migraine sufferer I’ll take it.

Some habits that I have stuck with since my From Fluff 2 Fit days (that was the name of my weight loss blog):

  1. Weigh myself weekly
  2. Drink half my body weight in ounces of water a day
  3. Workout 2-3 times a week

One new habit I’ve added in: Walking 10,00 steps a day. Jacob my boyfriend bought me a Fitbit a few months back and it has been a game changer as far as how much I walk during the day.

The hard thing to let go of is that I used to be skinny. Sigh…. I also have a hard time letting go of how easy it felt the first time. I was SOOO motivated. This time I’m just not mentally prepared to go through that again.

160lbs in 2014

I have a few friends who have done Whole 30, but when I think about starting that it just makes me depressed. I already have really thin patience and its even thinner when I’m hungry. I just really don’t want to subject the people I love to that!

I don’t know friends. I wish I had some parting piece of guidance about losing weight and being healthy, but I’ve got nothing.

All I’ve got is we can be fluffy together! Come on over and I’ll pour us a glass of wine and fry us some hot wings (Yes I realize these things don’t go together but its two of my favorite things and as this is my blog I can pair whatever I choose!)

If you’re struggling with fluctuating weight, I’m with you and maybe one day we will figure it out.



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Body Positivity, Personal Life

For the Love…Put on that Swimsuit

My seven year old officially had his last day of school last Thursday.


I’m seeing a lot of my friends posting pictures of their kids on the last day of school. Most of them are jumping into a pool and celebrating the unofficial start of summer.


And truthfully while they’re excited, all of us mom’s know they’re going to complain about being bored a week in.

Ahhh summer. I love you. Longer days. Warmer weather. Plenty of sunshine. Beach vacations and trips to the pool.

While I love summer, for a moment I found myself dreading putting on my swimsuit this year.

Since last summer I have gained 30lbs!! And at times, okay a lot of the time, I am frustrated at myself.

Then I remember, a lot happened last year. Two things that threatened to crush my soul. Two clouds I thought I would never come out from under.

One: My Dad passed away unexpectedly on August 15th. Easily one of the worst days of my life.

Two: I went through a divorce. It was actually a very cordial divorce and me and my ex husband co parent very well. But even a cordial divorce still represents the death of something.

So for me this past year two major parts of my life died. And with that came a lethargy and exhaustion that was hard to shake.

Having to function like a normal person after those major deaths was HARD y’all.

Some days I thought the grief would drown me. Some days I thought it would strangle me alive.

I didn’t recognize myself. And while I continued to workout because I do actually enjoy working out I struggled to care enough about eating healthy.

You know what was comforting after a long day at work battling grief and trying to function like a normal human being: Hotwings, French Fries, a glass of wine, and a Scandal marathon on Netflix.


So while I did pack on the pounds after my Dad died, I remind myself this summer as I cringe at the thought of putting on a swimsuit, that I went through a LOT last year.

And I know, there are those people who say “Don’t reward yourself with food you are not a dog.” (Insert eyeroll) To those people I say F*** OFF and mind ya business.

So today Mama, whether you’ve gained weight or just never lost the baby weight, I encourage you to remember all the hard things you do in a day. I encourage you to have grace for yourself.

I encourage you to put on your swimsuit because we’re all insecure about it. Solidarity sister..

Cheers to You

And I believe that life ebbs and flows in seasons. You will eventually enter a season where you’re motivated to drop some pounds. And if that isn’t this season…that is okay! Put on your damn swimsuit anyway because I’m sure you look FINE AS WINE regardless.

Now, excuse me while I go look for the cutest one piece swimsuit I can find. Send me your recommendations if you have any.



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Personal Life

Another School Shooting…

Y’all my heart is broken and Wednesday night I wept for children that are not even mine and for parents that I don’t even know.

If you  haven’t heard yet there was a school shooting in Benton Kentucky on Tuesday. Two people were killed and 18 people were injured. Not to mention the countless amounts of people who will be emotionally injured/scarred for the rest of their lives.

This school shooting in Kentucky has me shook. Shook because every time I hear about something like this happening I think about my own children and how powerless I would be to protect them in a situation like that.

My boys

I want to forever shield my boys from pain and from suffering but I know that is unrealistic. Shielding them from pain and from suffering will not help them grow. Coddling them will only turn them into weak adults. Yet still I wish I could absorb every bit of pain they will ever endure. 

And every time something like this happens I think of the tragedies that have come before it…Sandy Hook pops to the forefront of my mind. I could not imagine. I shudder to think what it must have been like for those parents to bury there once active, loud, talkative, and energetic toddlers. I wonder how people survive something so tragic.

Last year I lost my Dad and it turned my entire world upside down. It has been six months since he died and some days I feel like I will always carry around a small cloud of grief. That even on days when the sun shines the brightest and I am having the time of my life I will always have a pang of sadness.

Thanksgiving 2015
Thanksgiving 2015


I lost a Dad, I could not imagine losing a child. I find myself all the time saying “I just need this to make more sense. I need it all to mean something.” I drive myself crazy because there doesn’t seem to be any order in the chaos. It puts a hopelessness in my heart that I cannot shake sometimes.

Wednesday night when I picked Jacob up from work, as we sat in my car I sobbed and told him how I really needed life to make more sense. How it still blows my mind that someone can be there one minute talking to you, laughing, living, and breathing, and the next minute they’re gone. That’s what happened with my Dad. We laughed, we made jokes, and we cut up like we always do until all hell broke loose and a few hours later he was gone.

Sometimes in my hopelessness I ask, what can we do in the face of such evil and chaos? And then a still small voice reminded me that “Kindness creates a ripple effect.”

I don’t know that child’s motive for walking into his school and opening fire on his classmates. But I would argue that you do have to be a certain level of lonely and sad to want to kill other human beings. Either that or you’re just a psychopath, which that is possible too. But believing that kindness creates a ripple effect provides me with a certain amount of hope. Hope that being kind may impact someones life in a major way even though it’s such a small thing.

So what can we do in the face of such chaos? We can be kind and hope that it changes someone’s life for the better.


Brave Bonnie


Personal Life

Struggling to Manage My Weight

I am continuing to struggle with my weight this year. In August 2017, I finally got down to 200lbs. I started at 225lbs after the birth of my second son. I gained 70lbs while I was pregnant. FML…Then my Dad died and it threw my entire world off balance.

Here we are in January and I’m almost at the same weight I was after giving birth to my second child: 215 lbs. Womp womp. It’s discouraging at times,  but then I remember I need to have grace for myself.

I think I wear 215 lbs well, but still…I want to get back to where I was.
I want to get back to the girl on the right. I was 236lbs in the picture on the left and 160lbs in the picture on the right.

I’ve realized though that a lot happened this past year and sometimes food is the way I cope. Why? Because food makes me happy. You know people say “Don’t reward yourself with food, you are not a dog.” But to those people I say shove it. I like food, and there are times when food is an accurate reward.


There is nothing quite like the reward of a salty bag of chips after a long day. A long day in which you did not throat punch anyone, or tell anyone to go f*** themselves. Sometimes those days require a reward, i.e. salty chips.

All that being said, it seems I need to change the nature of my relationship with food.

My goal weight: 170 lbs. The smallest I have gotten down to was 158 lbs, but I don’t think I want to be that small again. I also don’t think that is a sustainable weight for me. I would rather be 170lbs with a little bit of muscle on me.

I have lost weight before so I know I can do it again, but man each time it gets a little harder to do.

In 2012 I lost 80 lbs on Weight Watchers. Between weight watchers and running 20 miles a week the weight melted off. The running routine was hard to maintain once I had two kids instead of one though.

It is time to come up with a plan and some strategies to get the weight under control. One thing that I have been doing is not eating after 7:30 p.m. I might move that time up to 7:00. So far I’m doing well with that habit.

The Plan:

–> Workout Monday-Thursday or at least three days/week

–> Eat less carbs but not completely low carb

–> Track food using Lose It app. This is the most user friendly free app I have found to track food on

LoseIt thumbnail
Here is what the interface looks like. The app icon is a picture of a scale.

–> Get at least 10,000 steps a day

–> No food after 7:30 p.m.

I have to fight for every single pound I lose, and sometimes I think its just not fair. Then I remember losing weight doesn’t come easy to anyone. Just look at majority of America. As my boyfriend reminds me I don’t need to catastrophize and act like things are worse for me than they are for everyone else.

I am working for this, not because I want to be thin, but because I hate feeling heavy and feeling like crap when I don’t take care of myself.

And because everything is better with humor, prepare yourself for a lot of weight loss memes.

Funny Meme


Brave Bonnie